A South African lady has changed the status quo by dumping her man because he doesn’t want her to pay the bills. Shocking right? Absolutely!
We live in a world where women seek financial security in men, who in turn exploit them to their whims and caprices.
However, this lady with writer with the Twitter name, @awkward_ah, has manage to change our perception to some extent.
According to her, during the course of dating, he was already hinting at her quitting her job and taking care of his own books.
“I was engaged to a man who’d never let me pay for anything. Like it got him mad when I bought things. I left him because that may sound like a dream come true for some, but it’s a nightmare. It’s not generosity, it is control.
“He started hinting that I worked too hard. I should quit and take care of his books. When I asked what my salary would be, he laughed. Said I don’t need a salary when there’s ‘our money’. No, brother… could never be me
“He bought me a new phone and sim card. It would be best if we were on the same network for free minutes, he said. I saw that he just didn’t want others to have my number and also he would have access to my itemised bill.
“For some reasons, this man thought that by putting a ring on my finger he could now shape me into a mould of his own design. I saw through it all. I’m really thankful that I did or who knows how my life would be today.
“Every time I’d say no, he’d buy me things. I don’t want to grow my hair, he got expensive flat irons. I don’t like heels, he showed up with an Aldo box. . . It never stopped.
“Then he would hint that we should go to Mac. He knows a lady who can sort me out. He’d like me to wear makeup all the time. You know, the business was picking up and we had to appear a certain way. I’m a jeans and T kinda girl. He met me as such.”