In Africa, childbearing is so important that a woman who fails to give birth when she reaches a certain ‘biological period’ is subjected to psychological trauma by families and the society at large.
It’s therefore strange that actress Nse Ikpe Etim had her womb removed so she wouldn’t have to give birth at all. Well, it wasn’t deliberate as she did it to sustain her life.
The actress, who spoke at an event in Lekki Lagos State tagged ‘Conversation with Nse’, said she removed her womb to live a normal life.
, Nse Ikpe-Etim said she was diagnosed three years ago with Adenomyosis, a condition whereby the inner lining of the uterus breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus, adding that she had to remove her uterus in order to live a normal life.
“I was told I couldn’t have kids, so, I had to have a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) to make me have a life again and to stop going through what I was going through.
“I’m literally telling women and men, it really doesn’t matter if you can’t bear children. What really matters is what you would do for the world, for the universe.”
“The day I was informed I had to remove my uterus tears dropped and then my husband squeezed my hand. It was reassuring there was someone there and it was telling me that this is reality, my reality.”
“I didn’t think there was any point anymore because my society taught me that I have to be a mother to be appreciated and every time I went online, I would have one troll or two say ‘you never born?’
“But I’m thankful that that didn’t break me.”
“I’m thankful for Nollywood. I push my pain through every single character.”
Prior to the hysterectomy, I badly wanted to have children.
“I wanted a set of twins. I wanted children. I wanted so badly I was brooding forever. I did IVF. I did everything our society wants every woman to do so that we can be accepted as women,” Nse Ikpe-Etim added.