In our part of the world, marriage is well cherished by every sound being but it’s not enough comparably to child bearing. Thus, child bearing according to the Christian Bible is the only surest way to add up to creation.
But someway somehow, not all woman can give birth the natural way although they desire to add up to creation as in the case of Nigerian actress Nse Ikpe-Etim. According to her, she’s married but for some reasons, she won’t be able to add up to creation – procreation.
The actress, who spoke at an event in Lekki Lagos State tagged ‘Conversation with Nse’, said she removed her womb to live a normal life.
Recounting her ordeal, she said she was diagnosed three years ago with Adenomyosis, a condition whereby the inner lining of the uterus breaks through the muscle wall of the uterus, adding that she had to remove her uterus in order to live a normal life.
“I was told I couldn’t have kids, so, I had to have a hysterectomy (removal of the uterus) to make me have a life again and to stop going through what I was going through.
“I’m literarily telling women and men, it really doesn’t matter if you can’t bear children. What really matters is what you would do for the world, for the universe.”
“The day I was informed I had to remove my uterus, tears dropped and then my husband squeezed my hand. It was reassuring there was someone there and it was telling me that this is reality, my reality.”
“I didn’t think there was any point anymore because my society taught me that I have to be a mother to be appreciated and every time I went online, I would have one troll or two say ‘you never born?’
“But I’m thankful that that didn’t break me. I’m thankful for Nollywood. I push my pain through every single character. Prior to the hysterectomy, I badly wanted to have children.
“I wanted a set of twins. I wanted children. I wanted so badly I was brooding forever. I did IVF. I did everything our society wants every woman to do so that we can be accepted as women,” she added.