Honestly staying a virgin is one of the most challenging aspects of adolescence. Whilst growing up, the chastity propaganda was drummed into our heads but none of us was able to live up to expectation. I wonder how many virgins are there in this modern era when promiscuity abounds like never before.
So it comes as a huge surprise that a 52-year old woman is still a virgin. This came to light during at a social cohesion dialogue about virginity at Moses Mabhida Stadium in Durban on this week. The South African woman identified as Thembisile Ntaka who is 52 said she had never had sex nor kissed before.
In an interview with the Daily Sun: “I began this journey when I was 14 years old. I get a lot of people criticising me for being a virgin and not having children. Some even tell me I will die a lonely woman. But that does not make me want to change my life.”
Thembisile said she has never slept with a man or even kissed one. She said she is one of the most respected women in Botha’s Hill. Thembisile encouraged young women to stay virgins. “I’m the lastborn at home. My eight siblings got married and left me with my brother’s two children.”
She said when she was young she heard her brothers’ friends saying bad things about the girls they’d had sex with. “I decided then I didn’t want to be one of those girls,” she said. She said each time there is virginity testing in her area, she is always the first one in line. “I don’t care if I die without children or a husband. I’m happy with my life and so is my family.”
During the conference, where virgins and virginity testers discussed the importance of purity, tester Zanele Shezi-Sishi said it’s important for women to look after themselves.
“Staying a virgin helps to avoid infections and disease.” Head of recreation at eThekwini Municipality, Thembinkosi Ngcobo, said they chose the topic because too many girls fall pregnant at an early age.